Many people are under the impression that when they’re thinking about what they want, they are really thinking about what they want. But often, they’re not. What they’re really thinking about it is the absence of it!
There’s a way to tell: by how we feel.
When we’re truly thinking about what we want, we feel good. The thought of our desire lights us up, excites us, gets our juices flowing in happy anticipation. It can be a myriad of emotions but the bottom line is that we feel good.
When we don’t feel good, we are actually thinking about the other side of our desire – not having it! Doubt, worry, fear, frustration, “where is it?”, “it’s too hard”, “I don’t have the money”, “I don’t know how to make it happen”… those kind of thoughts have crept in. It takes diligent awareness to monitor all our thoughts and it can get hard. Very hard.
The best (and easiest) way to know what we’re truly thinking about is to be aware of how we feel.
We all know by now that what we focus on, what we give our attention to, is what we get more of. So whatever you spend most of your time thinking about is what you get. (We’re talking essence here of course) Spend most of your time thinking about the absence of your desire, and you get more absence. You prevent yourself from seeing opportunities and solutions and you prevent it from happening.
So, what to do about it?
Focus on what you desire. Think about it as if you already have it. How would you feel right now if it was here? Use your imagination. Go ahead and feel that way now!
Focusing is like a muscle: the more you practice the easier it gets.
And when you can’t do that? When doubt or worry have crept in too far and momentum is holding your thoughts along those lines, go do something else so you can think about something else. Go for a workout, a run, a walk, read a book, take a nap, work on another project, clean your closets while dancing to Usher…whatever tickles your fancy. It doesn’t matter what, as long as it feels good!
No thought on the topic is much better than disheartening or disappointing thoughts. Keep your desire as pure as possible by focusing on what it is you want and inspiration will come to you – that next step on the “how to” path.
I love the topic of focus. I believe it’s key to high performance, success and fulfillment, so I’ll be writing more about it in the future. If there’s a particular aspect you want to talk about or you have a story you’d like to share on the power and impact of focus and your thoughts, let me know. I’d love to hear about it! Leave a comment on the blog below or send me an email if you’re feeling a little shy.
PS. I’ve learnt a lot from Abraham-Hicks. In addition, one of the best books on focus is written by Daniel Goleman – Focus: The Hidden Driver of Excellence. I highly recommend these 2 sources.
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